It Was Hard For Him

– It’s our last day in
Vegas, our last morning. We’re not gonna be here for the day, we’re leaving, we’re going home. I’m so excited, I miss my children, – Yeah.
– I miss ’em a lot. We’ve gotten comments
from you guys before, about how we’re the only
channel that you watch, or you don’t like other vloggers. And I never understood that, and we thought of ourselves as YouTuber’s, as content creators, just like everybody else on this platform. But then being around
these other amazing people, these patient leaders, and change makers you know, in the health
and wellness arena. We kind of realize where we belong. We belong with them, they are our us. And we’re proud to be a part of that. It’s not gonna change what we do, we’re just gonna keeping what we do. It has made us realize, how
important it is what we do. Okay we’re back in Houston
again, long layover here. – Yeah, like two and a half hours. – Yeah, but it’s okay.
(woman laughing) ‘Cause we had dinner,
and we’re having Dunkin. It’s not dinner time,
like what time is it? I don’t even know what time it is. What time is it? – Well it’s almost what? It’s seven o’clock here, so
it’s eight o’clock at home. – And it’s five o’clock
where we came from. – Yeah.
– Or something like that. – I don’t know, yeah. And you know, time changes
on Sunday, you know. – Right, I feel like we’re
gonna be tired when we got home. – Yeah.
– Like just be exhausted for a couple of days. That’s how we were, when
we came back from L.A., and we had more time to adjust. – I’m hoping that our
bodies didn’t fully adjust, like I feel tired now, so
I feel like that’s good, ’cause then we can go home and go to bed. – Yeah true, I miss the
kids I’m ready to go home. – Yeah me too.
– A few hours. – Yup, Abby will be asleep,
Isaiah will be awake. – Yeah, we met a subscriber. (everyone laughing) She recognized us, came up, she’s on the same flight
headed back to JAX. – Oh my gosh.
– Oh I almost dumped my coffee on you, that would’ve been bad. – Hey Abb, watching “Cookie
Monster” video’s down there? Nala, Becka, the whole crews here. Oh my gosh, Abby, we
need mom and dad back. We’re exhausted, all of us. – Yes.
– Except for you. You are just a ball of energy. – You’re ready to go. – We’re all gonna go to
bed, it’s gonna be great. – Yeah.
– I think I’m gonna stay up and wait for mom and dad,
okay, is that all right? Yeah, okay.
– She already had her pills, so she should be– – All right yeah that’s good.
– Knocking out soon. – Okay, well look at that. You and Nala are gonna be
up all night, y’all two. – Back in Florida. – Back in the heat and the humidity. Our bags are like wet. – I’m sweating already.
– Right? – You know, those moments when I, I ask you to say again what you just said? – I just said, I feel
like we needed that trip. Like we’re more connected now. – Yeah.
– You know? Like we work together it’s hard, to have romance all the time. – Yeah that makes sense. – Its super awkward, but.
(man laughing) – Well no it makes
sense, like and you know, we have a lot of, whoa,
that was a STOP sign. – Er don’t blog and drive.
– I know, but there’s a rail thing and I didn’t want it to, I didn’t want it to–
– Oh the guard rail thing. – Yeah I didn’t want the arm.
– Yeah the arm to come down. – Yeah, no it’s not awkward, like we have you know, mainly
adults that watch this. Like just the romance of it you’re right. – Yeah. – Granted we worked 95%
of the time we were there. – We did.
– But, it was still great. – But it’s just like being
able to focus on us, really. – On each other, yeah.
– Yeah. – We sat across from each other
and focused on each other, while we were eating lunch and you know, – Yeah.
– You know? You know, any other time
you sit down to have dinner like with kids you’re, you
know, we’re helping Abby eat, or talking about what Isaiah’s
got going on at school, and you just need those times sometimes. And definitely especially
as special needs parents, I know a lot of you can relate. You don’t have those times,
like it just doesn’t exist. It’s been nine years since we left the kids at home and went
off and did something just the two of us.
– Like this. – Like this.
– To this yeah to this caliber.
– To this extent. We went to, now granted you
know, a couple years ago, we went to New Orleans and
that was 100% play, no work. (Asa laughs) So what you’re saying it’s not the Florida humidity that’s got me feeling hot, huh? – Oh my lord. (Asa exclaiming)
(Priscilla laughs) Oh boy, you’re making me blush. – I would like to do something, it was $72 to park the car?
– Yeah. – Holy crap we should’ve taken an Uber. I would like to do something
like that once a year. – Yeah.
– Larger scale once a year. Like continuing, you know, we’re gonna have Abby,
for the rest of our lives. Like you know, going forward do something once a year just the two of us, even if it is work related where we can just enjoy each other’s presence. – Right. – Without being parents the whole time. It’s important.
– It is. It’s super important. – It may be increasingly more difficult as Isaiah goes off to college, we’ll see. But we’ll play it by ear,
and things always change. That’s what we’ve come to learn, is things always change,
nothing ever stays the same, it doesn’t get better,
it just gets different. – Yeah. – Hi Maverick.
– What are you doing? – [Asa] Hi bud. – Hi.
– Hi. – What’s up? – [Asa] We’re home. Son are you staying up
late watching cartoons? – No, I was doing laundry.
(Asa Laughing) – Hi bud.
– Hi. – You what?
– Good to see. – You too. – I was doing laundry.
– You survived without us. – The laundry room right now, good luck. Good to see.
– Hi, good to see you. – I wouldn’t call it, yeah
I would call it surviving. It wasn’t living, I’ll tell you that. It was surviving.
– Oh my goodness. – [Asa] Was it hard? – I don’t know how y’all do this. – What do you mean?
– It wasn’t hard, it was just, it was crazy, I was like, “Oh my gosh, they do all
this stuff, all the time!” Like, it’s like midnight,
and I’m like, “Maverick!” Like it was (laughs) I was like, “Oh my gosh I have to
fee him!”, and then like I have to do much things.
– You have to feed Maverick. You have to feed him.
– I know. It was like I had to do–
– What buddy? – [Isaiah] I had to do so many things, I had to feed the dog. – Hi!
– Well you know. (Asa laughs)
– Ah, did you miss me? – No, I know.
– I’m like, I don’t know which iPad to send with Abigail.
– I know. – We’ll send both, I put both in there. – Yeah that’s fine.
– Yeah. – Both is good.
– Yeah all right. – [Asa] Ah, hi Nala! – [Isaiah] Everybody’s here. – [Asa] Hi, hi there, good to see you. – Let me see my kitten,
come here, are you guys getting any friendlier?
– Now that’s a dope setup. The camera setup there.
– Can you give me the cat? So she doesn’t run away without her. – Come here, come here. Come here, come here.
– Have they gotten any friendlier?
– Come here. (elbow banging) Ow!
– Are they more friends now? – Sure I’ll say that.
(Asa laughing) – Hi!
– They still hiss, all the time.
– Hi! – [Isaiah] Or she still
hisses all the time. – How are you?
– Hi bud, hi bud. Ah he’s so excited.
(dog panting) Oh my goodness. Oh my goodness.
– I know they missed us. – Oh my goodness.
– It’s funny the first day was kind of hard for everybody.
– Yeah, yeah – It was very weird being off our schedule and not having y’all, Like Abby didn’t have
a, you know she had a, she didn’t have a, not that
she didn’t have a good time, she had a rough time.
– Yeah. – Because like you know,
her routines messed up, and I did too, and everything. But it kind of fell into
place, we were good. – That’s good.
– We had lots of help. So we’re good.
– Yeah. – We tried to…
– It was always, it was either one or two
people here all the time. – [Asa] I feel like you’re
almost masking, are you okay? – Yeah I’m okay.
– Okay. It wasn’t too bad?
– I’m a little frantic right now, I
had some coffee earlier. So I could get stuff done.
(Asa laughs) Because I was tired. – Yeah welcome to adult life.
– Yeah, I was like, “Wow this house is a mess,
I need to get some coffee “and get cranking on this…”
– It looks great. – Yeah it does.
– Thanks. I did it in like 45 minutes.
– You know, a little, (laughs) a little pro-tip for ya, like first impressions matter. – Yeah, yup, yup.
– Laundry room looks good, living room looks good, yup.
– That’s exactly what I did. Don’t go in your, don’t turn
(Priscilla laughing) right when you turn in your room. – Okay.
– There’s some dirty clothes on the floor, I’m not gonna lie. (Asa laughs) – You want to see your gifts? – Sure.
– Okay you know, it’s Vegas, so it’s kind of hard to get like an appropriate gift. – Yeah.
– The girl said, “y’all are cool parents,
you’re buying gifts “for your kids in here!” I was like, “What?”
(paper crinkling) – Good!
(Priscilla laughs) I needed those.
– What do you buy, what do you buy for the guy
who doesn’t have dice socks? – [Both] Dice socks.
(Asa laughs) – That say, “Las Vegas”,
those are awesome. Oh snap. – [Both] That’s for Abby. To take her water to school.
– That’s cute. That’s so cute.
– Yeah. – And then where’s the other thing? – [Asa] Oh yeah. – Dude I just guessed it, that’s crazy. – [Asa] Poker chip, with
pictures that we pick on it. – [Isaiah] That’s so cool. – [Asa] It’s the WEGO Health crew. – [Isaiah] That’s awesome,
I really like that. – [Asa] Yup, we wanted something to remember it, you know?
– Just to remember. – [Isaiah] Mm hm. – Okay one more thing, one
more thing before I go back to the, back to our normal life, right. – Yeah. – So, we talked, I
talked to the WEGO people about creating almost
like a training course, for patient leaders you
know, that want to grow their presence online and on
YouTube, and stuff like that. And it really like it clicked, like we share our experience
as Autism parents with people, to make people’s lives better. Well what if there were more
patient leaders out there? More people doing what we’re doing, than we’re able to, you know, it’s like, you know, we helped to create 10, those 10 helped to create
10, like it’s like, you know, this compounding thing. I’m excited about that,
that’s gonna happen. We’re gonna do that, we’re
gonna teach other people how to do what we do, and do this, and make the world a better place. It’s gonna be, I’m so excited! I can’t even sleep, it’s
two o’clock in the morning. I need to go to bed.
– Oh my gosh, well I can sleep.
– Okay, all right. See you guys tomorrow. We’re not gonna wake up
Abby, ’cause I don’t even want to go in there, I don’t
want to risk waking her up. – I opened the door, but she was in there.
– We’ll see her, oh she’s there? – She’s there.
– Okay, that’s good. They did a good job. All right we’ll see you
guys in the morning. – Bye.
– Bye. (high pitch tone) (dramatic music)

62 thoughts on “It Was Hard For Him

  1. Hey Asa, I doubt that you’ll see this but I was wondering what service you use for the music you use in these videos.
    I’m a fairly new YouTuber (my channel isn’t under this profile) and am looking for a subscription for royalty free music.

  2. Your true path has been mapped out. It started with Abbey, and leads to other things in the field of Autism. Helping other people, the medical world. Doctors, nurses, people in the care industry. They want to hear about your experience with Autism. You can now see the bigger picture. You were both born to do this, to live this life.
    Take this world wide, build a model / framework that everyone can follow and understand. Because Autistic people are not being cared for correctly. Especially in the U.K.. They deserve respect and dignity to live a normal life that is humanely possible.

  3. I have been wanting to do something but with MS. I have more than MS, but I'm not on any of the MS meds, which is odd. I make manadals. I would like to create one for you guys using your favorite colors. P, I have an idea you guys can do. Trace your hands on black paper. Then add names with a white or silver paint pen. Glue your hands on heavy paper. Frame. You could put your name in the middle. This would make a great gift for parents for Christmas. Also, if you guys can get your siblings to do the same with their families, then mail to you. Then get your parents to trace their hands, glue the hands on a poster board. Frame. It would be a sweet gift for the folks. You can turn the hands into Christmas oranments. Just glue hand to heavy card stock. Cut out. Cover in clear contact paper. (If Abby's school would let you use the machine at school that lamanetes, would be easy) Then cut out,punch a hole, add ribbon. I used to be a teacher and nanny. Keep spreading kindness!

  4. You’re right, Asa. You should start (or continue) to do something every year as a couple. Like you said, you will have Abbie for the rest of your life. Special needs children are a huge commitment. I know you had a tribe of people working together to care for Abbie whilst you were away. But I can’t help feel for Isaiah and the role he has in the care for his sister. Sometimes I think too much expectation and responsibility is placed on his still young shoulders. You will miss him when he’s at college, in more ways than one.

  5. I have learned a lot from all of you. Your families story and your videos matter. They educate those of us who don't raise an austic child, but have family and friends that do. They are support for those that do. Isiah you are right. Adulting is work.

  6. U guys are awesome love everything u do I have a 3 year old who has sensory prosesing disorder and it’s it’s not all that fun but I love her but u guys give me goo ideas

  7. I remember discovering this channel thinking that it would be one of those that you click and the last video was months or even years ago but you guys actually vlog you guys actually upload consistently and I love that

  8. I love your channel and all you have done informing people on the true life of autism. Keep up the great work! πŸ’•

  9. I've been watching ab… for a while now…. please watch the magic pull on Netflix… children that have never spoke a word… by changing their diet… they do now… when I watched this documentary I couldnt help but to think of sweet Abigail

  10. I feel you my son is being assessed for autism and my partner and I haven't had us time in 4 years, he won't stay with anyone not even my parents, we managed a few hours when I went into have my section on his brother last year but his uncle was only getting him up and dressed and off to pre-school, his dad was back in time to get him from school with his uncle, the longest I've ever been away from him was 4 days after having his brother and that's since he ( my eldest) was born.

  11. I love watching you guys because you’re real, you don’t β€œput on a show” for your vlogs. I have learned so much from you guys. I have several family friends that have young children with autism that were frustrated and really had no clue on what to do or programs available for autistic children and I always recommended they subscribe to you guys. My local grocery store has even started offering sensory friendly shopping during the evening which is fantastic!! More and more people are becoming Autism aware and it’s wonderful to see. Thank you guys for all you do, we all love and appreciate you! ❀️🧩

  12. I’m so glad that you had some alone time for each other. I think that it rejuvenates the relationship. Like a mini honeymoon! It is so awesome that you’ve decided to do it yearly. I’m so glad that you had an awesome time! Congratulations Asa on your award! You deserve it!πŸ˜Žβ€οΈπŸ™πŸ»

  13. I think you are difrent in a positive way. Watching you don't feel like study or a perfect movie for viewers. I feel it is like a happy nice time to relax and watch you all, the happy and sad. and all in between. You are real and perfect by being not perfect. Do I make sense? Not like acting cooool to let us see how you do stuff. You just show it in a normal way ^-^ Sometimes funny 🀣

  14. Although i think Abi is absolutely amazing, isaih is one of a kind! Im proud of him and ive never met him. Caring, considerate, understanding, sensible big brother. Abi and isaih are lucky to have each other and the close relationship is amazing. I love watching your channel, as a learning support assistant for children with disabilities(in the uk) i totally support everything you do as a family . I think you are all awesome.

  15. Can you explain more what a patient leader is. What does getting involved look like? I am a β€˜patient’ but it’s not autism. I have chronic pain from a car accident in my 20’s and have many issues I deal with. I dont want to tell my life story here- but not sure where to send it and/or if it’s something I could manage getting involved with. There is a definite need for resources. If it is relevant to what you’re doing, Id love to share.

  16. I look forward to you teaching us to be patient leaders! Maybe one day I'll be ready for it too but I don't know if it's actually necessary to have a patient leader for a rarer disease. But I would def. Like to share my experiences as a young adult with autism that tries to function in this world.

  17. Pricilla its not akward to talk abot your realationship with no camara. as one of the children who watch ur vlogs it not even akward if u take vlogs to 7th grade

  18. Asa, when you are talking about patient leaders, what does that encompass? Can it be about invisible chronic illness? Does it have to be a vlog? What avenues are suggested or what will this mentorship look like?

  19. Don't sugar coat it just say it it was awesome you had no kids with you we all love are kids but me time or us time is always needed

  20. I would love to be a patient leader. My daughter has severe autism. She is 11 and has the mental capacity of a two to three year old. I would love to learn from you Asa.

  21. I LOVED in this vlog that Priscilla who herself said she’s not a cat person said β€˜let me see my kitten’ . It’s crazy how animals just do that to you. Without doing anything over the top, they just make you fall in love with them.
    Ps. You guys do deserve breaks.

  22. Love what you say in the first minute. πŸ™‚

    Edit: "What do you get for the guy who doesn't have dice socks? Dice socks." πŸ˜‚

  23. I would love to learn about being a patient leader ❀️ I have a son with epilepsy and adhd and a son with autism. How do we find out more information??

  24. Isaiah all energized with caffeine and saying not to turn right when Priscilla and Asa go in their room had me weak… 🀣

  25. Can't wait to see what you do with the patient leaders. I would love to get in on it. My oldest has no specific diagnosis but originally thought he had autism but has now been classified by his school as overall developmentally challenged. I would love to figure out a way to document the process of his journey from here as a 10 year old about to hit puberty and how hormones will affect his overall life. I really am inspired by the way you document your family and Abbie's journey thru life.

  26. My husband and I want to be a part of that patient leaders class. I have 3.5 year old identical twin boys with nonverbal autism and we are very early in the journey. Tomorrow, the doctor confirms their diagnosis although the testing has all been done. Your vlog has not only given me hope, but it has really helped me wrap my head around what is important in this journey. It has helped me be there for my family as we go through processing what our new normal is going to be like. Thank you for all you do. Seriously, you are making a huge difference in my life. Love you guys!

  27. You guys are so amazing thank you so much. I'm not a special needs parent bit I have learned so much from your family. I'm a better person for watching you all so thank you. Priscilla you look amazing. Isiah great job adulting

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