Introducing a Neurotypical to Sensory Aids ft Bradley Birkholz | invisible i [CC]


Tea time! With Katy and Bradley! (vocal warm-ups) Okey-dokey -Ready?
-Yeah Hey everyone it’s Katy and welcome back to my channel. I am joined by the lovely Bradley today who is one of my good friends you may have seen him pop up in a few videos, Autism Pride
-Yes We are here today to do something really, really different and it’s an idea that kind of came to my head quite randomly I’m not sure if it’s gonna be any good, if you guys would enjoy this, or if you’re gonna enjoy this,
-I’m excited We’re all excited here, so hopefully the feelings are mutual all around but today if you guys didn’t know Bradley is neurotypical and I am going to be introducing him to the world of sensory seeking and sensory stuff and we’re gonna see your initial impressions, what you think they’re for, and we’re just gonna be having a good sensory chat. I don’t really know where it’s gonna go but I do feel like there are lots of people out there who maybe are embarrassed to use these things? Especially autistic adults because we often find that we need to use these things in public where there’s lots of neurotypical people or people who don’t understand these things, and we can feel a little bit self-conscious by that so I think I’d be really interested to see what you think of this or if you know what these are for, or if you yourself would use any of these things because you have social anxiety,
-I do So some of these things might be of benefit to you? I might like have half these things like leave my possession today… Mysteriously… I think it’s gonna be educational. I’m excited.
-We’re gonna hit you with some education. Education station. Bradley’s gonna close his eyes and I’m just going to hold up a few things. So most of you guys would have seen some of these things before, some things maybe not, but all of the items will be linked in the description box if you want to go check out any of these items in a bit more detail. We’re gonna start easy. Hopefully, let’s see if we can focus. There we go, ah, okay. Buh-buh-buuh Does this feel familiar, what do you think? -This feels like a fidget spinner
– Yes! Ding ding ding! Surprise, surprise, Bradley got that one. I feel like there’s a piece of my hair on that as well. That’s okay because I’ve talked on my channel before about having palmoplanter hyperhidrosis which means to my hands sweat like excessively so I’m already gonna be getting all of your stims gross and sweaty. One of the many things that Bradley and I have in common, we excessively sweat. There it goes! I decided to show you the fidget spinner because it’s one of those things a lot of people out there now know. It’s sort of seen kind of like a meme now in our life, people make like lots of fun of people who use fidget spinners. But for the autistic community, those are something that are actually really beneficial to us because they’re called stimming – they’re stim aids. Have you heard of stimming before? I’ve heard of it, but I feel like you should explain it. It can be a little bit complicated! But in like the basic form, stimming is a slang term for what is known as self-stimulatory behavior. It is basically repetitive movement or actions that lots of people do, not just the autistic community. It’s more prevalent in those with autism, but lots of people do it for like anxiety, or just to kind of concentrate, so something like a fidget spinner that you can do like repetitively over and over again and get into like, a nice rhythm, is something that is so beneficial for those on the spectrum. So that is a side of tactile sensory seeking, everything to do with the hands. I already think that’s gonna be my favourite probably. Well you can fit into a lot of different types. Okay I’m a major tactile seeker, you guys at home know, but I will get another tactile item and this one is kind of love or hate. Okay So close your eyes… Some of you guys may have seen this before I don’t show this a lot on my channel, but da-da-da-daaah This is another tactile item, I want to know what you think about the texture of this. It’s velvety -Yeah!
-Like smooth -Is it something that you like?
-I like it a lot. This is such a like, nice texture. -I think it’s really cool.
-So that is such a love and hate kind of texture -And it’s squishy
-It is squishy! -It’s like an alternative stress ball, right?
-Yeah, I was just gonna say stress ball. Like, um, you know, it could help with like panic attacks I feel like. So this is called Rubbabu -Rubbabu?
-Rubbabu It’s a really fun word to say and yeah, it’s got this velvety texture Which I think you like! I like the velvety texture A lot of people hate it, a lot of people in the autistic community would recoil back at this -Really? I don’t understand
-I think generally some people don’t like it, but I quite like it It’s one of those love or hate things. -Do you think it’s more the spikyness or the like actual material?
-It’s the actual material like people don’t like It’s that velvety kind of like suede, like people don’t like that. Next item, I will turn it on. I’m not sure if you guys are gonna see -Turn it on?
-Yeah, that’s the clue. That’s a good clue There we go ba-ba-ba-baaaah Okay, that’s on by the way. Um, I’m definitely not gonna share my first thought of what this is, we’re gonna, we’re gonna censor this We’re gonna put like some sexy music on top of this (Careless Whisper by George Michael plays) It feels like the shard. -What do you think I turned on?
-Oh, yeah. Yeah, right. Um, Yeah the only thing I can – because I don’t hear anything – so I’m guessing there’s some kind of light or something. Yep, that’s exactly it. Do you want to have a little look? Hey! At night, in the bath. It’s so nice. It’s so relaxing, it’s like your own little mini-spa. Yeah, some people on the autistic spectrum would find that too stimulating because the lights are a bit too much, I personally find it very calming. I think I would find it very calming also because the lights are very, like the colours are very kind of low-key. Yeah, I think if it, like if it was flashing really bright colours, that would be different but it feels very like um like mood lighting like just very kind of calm and I could so see this like by a bath, like very relaxing. There’s two like, you hit it on the head, like there’s two different types of visual stimuli. You’ve got the strobe lights, which actually some autistic people really like, a lot of people think that autism is always about avoiding those situations but some people actually seek out those strobe lights at like festivals, concerts, fireworks they love it. Is that like a form of stim play would you say? Yeah it’s a form of sensory seeking, and it’s, there’s a whole sort of scientific side of it, which is basically your brain under-reacts. Okay People often think that autism is always over-reacting to things and being very sensitive to light, sound, touch, everything like that. But a lot of people with autistic traits and with sensory difficulties actually under-react as well which is why we need sensory things in our life to bring that kind of reaction up. So we will often find extremes can work for us as well because our brain can take that amount of information. -It has velcro here?
-Yeah It has… it feels like it’s gotta be something electronic because there’s like an – oh my… it just moved! -It vibrates.
-Yeah! A vibrator on this channel, Katy honestly… That’s so interesting, I want to say it’s like an animal or something but doesn’t really feel like an animal. No you’re exactly right! Wait, is it like a jellyfish? -You’re exactly right!
-Wait really, can I open my eyes? Actually it’s, yeah open your eyes. There’s a debate as to whether this is actually a jellyfish or a squid. -Okay, I can see it being a squid or a jellyfish
-Yeah, a lot of people say both It’s called a Senseez. So it’s essentially exactly like a massager would be for like every other person in this planet, but people hold on to this in times of comfort. It’s a side of what we call proprioceptive seeking, -all about feeling grounded
-Okay and like having nice bodily contact and yeah, it’s it’s a very kind of obscure aid I think. Now you can kind of know that if you see any of this, it might not be what you think. Or it might! Who knows. Woah. Woah, what is this? Oh, oh are these what you put on your lap to ground you? -Yes!
-What are they called? Lap… pads?
-Yeah. Yeah. See I know what this is because I have a friend who makes these. This is actually a weighted blanket so it’s huge. -A lap pad probably be like, tiny, it’d be like this big.
-You can’t see but it’s on my lap and I’m feeling great. How do you feel about this like weight-wise? Is that something that’s quite comforting to you or do you feel like smothered by it? I think this is one thing I don’t experience as a neurotypical like, with most of them so far I would say that like I’ve definitely, like I see the appeal, like as a neurotypical but also as someone with social anxiety. With this, I can definitely see how it’s cool and see how it’s grounding, I think that like just on my lap, I kind of appreciate it because it is kind of, there’s like a nice grounding feel but I definitely wouldn’t want it on all of me Yes Because I have like claustrophobia and so like any kind of like heaviness is usually more of an anxiety-inducing thing for me than like a relaxing. It’s so heavy 4.5 kilograms Oh my goodness. (mouthing silently)
It smells. Actually hold on. I hope you’re gonna like this, if you don’t, you might need to wash your hands. Ha ha ha! Oh my gosh, it’s like wet and cold. Is this like putty? Like clay or like playdough? Yes, -That’s not its main quality.
-Really? -That’s not its main use in the autistic…
-It has a smell. Yeah! Yeah, so this is called Aroma Dough. Oh my gosh, so it’s like playdough with a smell. It’s exactly like that. It’s playdough with a smell, and there’s actually, there’s five in here. One, two, three, four, five… no six actually including that one. And they all have different scents. I find smells extremely relaxing, and there’s a lot of essential oils that really good for anxiety as well. So I think they’re wonderful. Would you use something like this that had a smell but was also tactile. Because you’re tactile kind of seeking? I think I would yeah. Final few items. You guys will be very familiar with these. I’m not sure Bradley has seen these, he might have done because you know, we’re good friends. He might have seen these popping up because I use these quite a lot. So this is just one thing, so let me know what you think it is. So I think it’s a bracelet. Yeah, and there are two different functions. It doesn’t smell! Everything’s throwing you off now. I know there’s a lot of stuff with like bracelets and like anxiety and like like health things. But I feel like I just really don’t know a lot about it, like the wrist being kind of like a very like focal point for a lot of stuff. You are getting onto the right track here. If I was to say that we saw some of these at autism pride, and you really thought they would be beneficial to you in particular -Oh, is this the red light thing?
-Yeah, yeah! -Okay, I love that
-So it’s a communication aid So do you want to open your eyes and have a little look at it? -Yeah, okay,
-So it’s red and then you’re can flip it.
-and then green, oh, I love that What do you think the second use for this is? Do you have any idea? My only thought is that it’s another kind of like grounding type thing, but that’s like all I can think of. Yeah you’re getting there. I will say before I tell you what it is, that it’s clean. Okay? Okay Oh oh dear… Is this like a chew thing? -Yeah!
-Really? Yeah it’s a chewable… Oh! Is this like part of Chewigem like the..? Yeah, so this is the company that I work for. So yeah, this is what we call Chewellry, but it’s like really discreet for people to wear and a lot of teens and adults really enjoy these types of things. I love this. It’s really cool. I’m like secretly super goth as well, so I’m very into this. And it’s like nice to have something that isn’t so obvious. Sure. Do you think if you’d seen this like on me you would know that that was a chewable I don’t think I would I think I was just assume it’s jewellery or just you know, Did you know that I was also wearing a piece of Chewellry? No, I did not. How was that for you? I found it like really, really interesting. I think I was almost surprised how much I enjoyed each of them. Yeah I always encourage sensory exploration for everybody regardless of whether you’re on the spectrum or not it’s something that a lot of people can benefit from. Yeah, and I feel like I’ve always enjoyed things like that but just never really thought about it much. Exactly. One you open your mind up to these things it can actually have a lot of impact and benefit in your life. So yeah, I’m glad you enjoyed it I hope you guys did as well at home Let us know if you have by giving you a big big thumbs up and comment down below What is the one thing that you feel like you would want neurotypicals or non-autistic people in this world to know about sensory aids? Let us know in the comments. We also filmed a really lovely video on Bradley’s channel about nonconformity and autism and anxiety and LGBTQ+ stuff. It was a nice little chit chat so if you’ve got some time free and you want to go and head on over and join the conversation I will leave a link to the video in a card up by here, and in the description box go on over and subscribe. Lots of intersectional dialogues happenin’. Yeah, very interesting stuff and it’s a conversation that I know a lot of you guys have asked me to do on my channel, so hopefully this will be a nice little introduction to that kind of topic. And if you guys have any other questions about LGBT+ identity, anxiety and autism and kind of those communities intersecting and those identities intersecting, leave them down below. Yeah, and we can do some more videos like this if you want in the future, so yeah. Just pop any suggestions in the comment section. I hope you’ve had a really, really good day and we will see you soon. Bye guys.
-Bye!

49 thoughts on “Introducing a Neurotypical to Sensory Aids ft Bradley Birkholz | invisible i [CC]

  1. Aww loved this, also Bradley seems like a lovely chap… The kind of person you could have a good, fun conversation with 😁 Think for me the thing I'd want "NT's" to understand would be that stim and sensory aids are just another way of chilling or relaxing. Pretty the same as someone going in the bath or reading a book. 😁

  2. This must have been so fun to film! And I can totally see why the Rubbabu is so polarizing! Velvet is definitely a love it or hate it fabric. -Plant Jess

  3. I love the insightfulness into sensory aids. Being in the middle is nowhere, despite being in a capital city not all of these things are available or knowingly available here in Her Majesty's.

  4. 5:30 When I was a kid, my grandma had something like that, and I would just sit there and stare at it for hours. My sister liked it too, but not nearly as much as I did. I just realized that might’ve been a stim

  5. Very interesting vid! I have a friend who is not on the spectrum (she has OCD) but is quite fidgety, whom I gave a tangle to, and she cannot put it down! (I don't have autism, I have ADHD and anxiety) I learned about tangles from a video made by someone on the spectrum! and love my tangle….well…all of them Lol!)

  6. I was literally just thinking today about posting this to one of your vids that those phone cord hair bands that come in all kinds of colors would be great for swimming. And the great thing about them is, is you stretch them out, you can shrink most of them back again by putting them in hot water. Here are the ones I bought:
    Ecome 10pcs Elastic Ponytail Holders Phone Cord Traceless Hair Ring for Girls Gum Band Rubber Hair Accessory Women Headwears https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07FD8MZF7/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_iryPBbYX8HJ5Y

  7. I Love velvet! 💜 I don’t care for jittery critters, I would love a weighted blanket if it wasn’t hot or confining. Lots of cool stuff! Thanks for showing us…

  8. I’m thinking I’m probably pretty shallow but the fact that his watch is on the wrong hand irritates me for some weird reason.

  9. I feel like I should have said this a long time ago, but I LOVE your intro (and your videos of course). I get so excited when there's a new invisible i video to watch!

  10. The sound quality on this vid is so good that I keep getting terrified that it’s playing aloud and not through my headphones

  11. We are soul sistahs lol😊 "neurotypical sparkle peaople (sparklies)", as i call them, make awesome best-ies, riiiight? And as an Aspie girl…. you are TOTALLY on my brain wave☺ You ROCK!

  12. wow, i didn't know people actually (other than me) had rubbabu stuff. I bought it because I saw it, basically and it felt sooooo stimmy and great but I've always had this niggle as in "this was designed for babies, Mel" I have a set of 20 triangles (minus two because there was an autistic boy in the hospital I was in who liked them) and a plain (no spikes or anything) pink ball. I didn't realise other people thought them to be great stim aids too!

  13. I found a colour-changing egg and loved it so much I took it home with me – found it great to calm down before bed or wake up with. But it broke. Now I know where to get them from properly! Thank you!
    Also, I need to work out where to get the Welsh Dragon Pride flag from….

  14. I really enjoyed the video, I'm just learning about stimming so it's fascinating. And the variety is so cool. Love that you can both chat openly about this stuff and have a great laugh. One thing I'd like people to know is that they aren't kids' toys, but also for adults. I'm self conscious in shops, especially whilst using my fidget cube. And also that they're fun and for anyone!
    Thanks so much, its a fun video 😀

  15. I almost always wear my headphones in the kitchen mainly because I cannot tolerate whistling and my grandfather does it constantly. I also have trouble with dishes banging together and my Grandmom's dogs excessive barking. My mom give me problems because She talks to me and I don't hear and when she gets my attention it's very rude. I wish that my mother would compare my headphones to things she does to cope ie. smoking eating junk food and having hot flashes.The difference is my ways to cope don't typically inconvenience others like her smoking. I do take my headphones off during dinner though. I'm new to all of this to so still figuring it out.

  16. Also some people don't get that you can have both under and over stimulating issues like I get very overwhelmed with bright lights and loud noises I can't control but I love loud music when I want it

  17. I just ordered the emotichew bracelet for my daughter! Thank you! I feel like I'd like a big, huge cap to put on my head when I want to be left alone. It's so much harder being a mother–everyone wants something from me all the time and sometimes I just can't.

  18. I was diagnosed 2 years ago, finally, at 28. I recently learned what "stimming" is, aka the habit I've had all my life. So I can get behind it, I love sensory seeking. But I have a problem: I HATE the word for it. "Stimming", "stimmy" ect. Ugh. Ironically, it gives me a negative sensory reaction on how the word looks and sounds and feels. Plus a minor sense of being insulted, like it's intended for unaware babies and animals. Is there a way I can get over this since literally everyone uses those words? I use different terms for it myself but no one still ever knows what I'm talking about.

  19. I can't eat peaches unless they are cooked or skinned! I have to fold apple slices so that the skin is in the middle and doesn't touch my tongue and teeth(it's like nails on a chalk board)!
    Soft feels that are velvety I like, as long as there is no fuzz or fabric.

  20. I really need to get some chew stuff because I chew zippers and hoody toggles a lot. I also bite my nails and the skin around my nails.

  21. I just wanna say, I'm pretty sure you can be hypersensitive and sensory seeking at the same time. E.g. I am absolutely hypersensitive to sound, yet I LOVE loud techno throbbing through my body, even if it gives me a headache afterwards.

  22. Thank you guys for a sweet show. I never knew about sensory items before this, but looking back I loved to play with pegs – making different patterns. I still do to this day. 🙂

  23. Is it common to feel so relaxed when looking at spinning things that it makes you want to fall asleep? That's how I feel. Looking at all these things are making fall asleep, that's a good thing. The light in the lamp egg should go slower I think, then I'd fall asleep. The chewable jewelry is the coolest thing, I want it… btw SUBSCRIBED

  24. I'm going to preface this by saying that as far as I know, I'm neurotypical (I may have anxiety since I do get panic attacks also I get very overwhelmed by sensory stuff sometimes, but I have never seen a professional and therefore I am not diagnosed with anything whatsoever).
    With the rubbabu it seems like the uneven spiky bits would bother me, but the velvet would be quite comforting.
    Most of these I would actually really like, I could definitely do with a red/green bracelet because sometimes people is just a no.

  25. I have a friend on the spectrum who uses bracelets like those for stimming, and I’ve definitely heard of the fidget spinners and the weighted blankets. I love your t-shirt, Katy.

  26. Hey, I thought that anxiety, ocd, adhd, etc. were neurodivergent as well? I thought that people who are not autistic are allistic. Not trying to hate at all, just trying to understand.

  27. Great video I just found your channel and I think I'm going to binge watch everything now!
    A few things I wish neurotypicals knew about sensory aids:
    – that they should always ask before they touch it and not react like they're annoyed if we say no. I personally don't like when other people touch my stimming toys because I think it's not hygienic and because if it's in my hands it means that I need it now but most people think I refuse to give it to them just to be annoying.
    – if you're curious about it and we refuse to explain everything let it go please. One of my friend once made a huge deal out of the fact that I didn't want to explain to him what was a tangle. He didn't know I am autistic and I just didn't want to go into details in the middle of the cafeteria so it really made me uncomfortable that he didn't just let this go.

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