Asperger’s / Autism Children – Preventing Meltdowns & Bullying Prevention

Children with autism and Asperger’s syndrome
often have meltdowns. Perhaps they get overwhelmed at a store. Maybe school was just too much
for them today. Or they were playing a game with their brothers or sisters and the other
players just refused to play by their rules. That alone can easily cause a meltdown. One mom told me about her 12 year old son
with Asperger’s. She said He exploded with frustration last night, verbally
abusing me and his brother. He was totally frustrated with a combination lock that he
has to use on his locker at school. By the end of the night I felt like I had been beat
up emotionally. Here are some tips to prevent meltdowns in
your children with autism or Asperger’s. Tip #1 To prevent meltdowns, you must understand
why they occur Kids with autism and Asperger’s syndrome meltdown
and become verbally abusive (and sometimes physically violent) primarily because they
reach the end of their patience. They are only kids! And life is totally bewildering
to them and hostile much of the time because they have autism / Asperger’s syndrome. In addition, if your loved one is in middle
or high school there is greater than a 90% probability that they are being bullied in
school if they have autism and Asperger’s syndrome. This leads to anxiety, stress and
depression. This constant taunting and bullying is one reason why teenagers, in particular,
are so fearful of seeming different. And why they can fly off the handle if you ask them
to do something that like wear a particular shirt that they think may make them the target
of bullies. Bullying of Children with autism and Asperger’s
syndrome Overcoming the bullying is an entirely different
issue. And one that is not easily solved. While the solution to bullying is complex,
the first thing you must find out is the extent of the bullying. Ask your loved ones with autism and Asperger’s
syndrome if they are being picked on — being hit — being called names. They may not even
realize that there is something that can be done to stop it. Ensure that your school recognizes that the
bullying is occurring and insist that they help your child and protect him from the bullies. Tip #2 Define a safe place for your children
with autism and Asperger’s syndrome I suggest that you work with your son and
find a “safe place” for him. It could simply be his room. Make sure that there are black
out shades that can be pulled to get the room as dark as possible. Make sure the room is as quiet as possible.
Work with your son and train him that any time he begins to feel overwhelmed, he should
go to his safe place and calm down. Simply lie down. Maybe pull the covers over his head.
But let him escape to this safe place. The same goes for school. The school should
provide him with a quiet safe place that he can retreat to if he is overwhelmed. Maybe
this is in a guidance counselor’s office. Maybe the administration office. But it should
not be a place that is too noisy or with a lot of commotion. Tip #3. Don’t fall off the cliff Sensitivities to sound, smells, clothing,
temperatures…all contribute to meltdowns in children with autism and Asperger’s syndrome. Kids with autism get overwhelmed very easily.
This leads to meltdowns. They tend to have very sensitive hearing. They are sensitive
to smells, to the feel of clothes. It does not take much to push them over the edge of
the cliff. Work with your child so that he recognizes when he is getting near the edge
so that he does not get pushed over the edge. Understanding what will push his buttons and
teaching him to recognize when he is about to blow up is key to success in preventing
the meltdown in the first place. Tip #4 Seek first to understand A major objective of my book, The Asperger’s
Syndrome Survival Guide is to help you understand how a child on the autism spectrum views the
world. Once you understand and see the world through your loved one’s eyes, you will be
much more able to solve your loved one’s problems and help them. These children fundamentally
see the world differently than you or I see the world. Always try to understand, from their perspective,
what is causing the frustration…the anger. Until you can see the world through their
eyes you will have trouble preventing meltdowns. To get additional information to help your
child thrive with autism, go to And make sure you sign up for my free Asperger’s
Syndrome newsletter which has practical tips for any parent of a child on the autism spectrum.

54 thoughts on “Asperger’s / Autism Children – Preventing Meltdowns & Bullying Prevention

  1. Hi this is Craig Kendall. You are absolutely right…girls have meltdowns too. I apologize for not making the video more inclusive. Thanks for mentioning this. In my books, I definitely discuss the issues with girls. For more information on girls with autism and Aspergers, click on the link listed in the description above which will take you to my website where you can sign up for a free newsletter. There you will get weekly updates and links to all my new videos.

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  3. It's funny how people with "Aspergers" get put in that nice and official little box as if they are a problem to be noted, whereas the "bullies" are only given a common reference although, I will tell you right now that I would happily live with an "Asperger" case than a "bully" anyyyyy fucking day.

  4. I have aspergers, I am 16 years old. Yet bullying made me who I am, it showed me what I did wrong and fixed it… I'm not made fun of anymore, and have a lot of friends.

  5. someone please help my son of 10 has pda and he is being bullied by some 6 year old and i thinkthe 6 year old has autism . and my 10 year old son telles lots of people about so i tell him i cant do anything about it becuase im not there . and the 6 year old trys to hit him . and my ten year old is very scared becuase he had young kids attack him when he was 5 . i think he will almost go of the cliff and hurt the 6 year old or try stabing him with a knife . how can the school stop this

  6. The school has several procedures that they must follow to handle it, but in many cases today, you almost literally have to kick someone to get it started.

    I cannot say for certain what the BEST answer is. An OPTION is to enroll your child in a martial arts or self-defense class. It sounds counter-intuitive, but the knowledge of self-defense ALONE is a sense of security. That sense of security is the best stabilizer you can have for this sort of thing.

    I speak from first-hand experience.

  7. Lol You've got my sympathy. It's complicated being on the spectrum but it's manageable. I wish you all the best and keep watching Naruto!

  8. thanks he does it on youtube becuase they have little lessons but i think that would be good for him untill they calm it down thankyou for your help

  9. Feel free to drop me a message if you have any questions concerning how to handle Asperger's Syndrome from the third-person; I've had 21 years to learn how to handle the difficulties and stresses without any assistance, and I'm quite willing to share if it helps.

  10. how bout tell them theres nothing wrong with them and that they're really just like everyone else trust me it will make them feel much better

  11. "protect him"

    Im sick of this assumption that only males suffer from aspbergers. There are plenty of girls out there as well, would it hurt if you included them!

  12. Whiteheart, unfortunately , not ALL kids , speaking from experience here, tend to like Martial Arts or any type of physical activity. My son HATES and avoids at all cost anything to do with Sports related activity or martial arts. Been there, done it, didn't work. Every child is different and will have different preferences. The best way is to seek until one finds what feels right for the child and that will also help him cope.

  13. My husband (aged 54) is on the Autism spectrum. It can be frustrating and upsetting for both of us but through love and humor we muddle through.

  14. those are great tips my son will definitely benefit from them. He on his on does go into his safe place which happens to be the bathroom now I know why he does that.

  15. I find full grown adults with aspergers act the same way when It comes to do you deal with that.

  16. My grandsin is 9 he knows everything there is about high performance cars but finds it difficult talking about normal day to day chit we try and get him to talk about other stuff other than cars or let him carry on.trouble is it can go on for hours.He also has a sister 7 who lives him to bit but he acts as though he hates her argues with her and trlls her shes alwayd wrong.hes ok with the 2 and 3yr old boys although when hes bored goes into rough pkay with them and doesnt seem to listen.can anyone help.Denise

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  18. I have a cousin that is 5 years old he is different with me he says I will kill you and bring a gun to shoot you and he would hit me for no reason. I have a hard time telling his parents cuz i think they wont believe me. I'm very concerned about my little cousin |:/ hmmm

  19. I have Asperger's syndrome,i also suffer from anxiety and depression from time to time. but im mostly happy. I have met some people who call it ass-burgers. but i just tell them they watch to many south park xD

  20. My friend's 6 year old son was diagnosed with AS.  He is always angry and he will fight you like a grown man.  He looks at you with the angriest look you can possibly imagine.  When he kicks and punches it is extremely difficult to stop him.  His strength is mind-blogging.  He is soooo strong.  He will tear everything up and break anything he can get his hands on.  I've never seen anything like this in all my life.  

  21. So its is not a disorder than is it….it is simply apply patience into your child and growing that with them. Home schooling is the way forward when done with effort.

  22. Why is there never ending info on aspergers and no information on those with children with severe autism I find this weird.

  23. i always get bullied by older women who are very threatened by me. they will find anything to pick on me with. it is hard to live a normal life.

  24. 1:02 that picture describes what is happening to me right now in middle school. it is a living HELL for kids with any of the Autism Spectrum Disorders. In middle school, different isn't accepted and you must fit in, according to the kids there. high school is somewhat more tolerable of being different because there are kids that may have your interests at heart! don't give up! be strong! that's what I say to kids with Asperger's Syndrome! All your quirks will become your strengths!-

  25. Children with Asperger's are very reluctant of what to do next if they are being constantly harassed in Schools. They believe giving their Valuable possessions is the only way to solve problems.

  26. We would do the entire world a big favor if all bullies got executed. Simple as that. They don't deserve to live!

  27. watch my videos there's a paedophile bullying an autistic person, he's a Trump supporter and touches little girls. He lives in Antioch CA ,he's also spreading diseases. His family is Jim prator,Brooke Maloney, Beth hill prator find them on FB. They're all harassing and bullying an autistic person. please SHARE my videos. thank you.

  28. I had a meltdown where I threatened another child by holding a bowling bowl up to their head, because I was so sad that I was losing at bowling. I think it was because I was worried that everyone was going to laugh at me and make fun of me for being bad at it. Competitive play is stressful. But I suppose children naturally wish to compete with one another. I just don't like it though. I felt like I hated the competitive aspect of many of my activities. For example, I was in Cheer America and I liked to dance, but I didn't like that we had to do competitions and be judged. I just wanted to enjoy certain activities for their own sake, not be forced to compete just to make my school or coach look good.

  29. Excuses. If you're autistic you still cannot do things like this. When you grow up you'll go to jail.
    I'm autistic, I need to work on things like that but I don't use autism as an excuse.

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