Active Listening: How To Communicate Effectively


Hello, and welcome to the
Communication Olympics where kids are tested to see who
can speak up and listen well. I’m your host Walker Walter. And I’m your host
Melissa Marissa. First we have Jon Rigbe. Last year, he famously
took out his cell phone while Frankie Richardson
was telling him about how her cat, Mr.
Pickles, had diabetes. It’s like he didn’t
even care about what she had to say at all. We have our judges scoring our
athletes on a scale of 1 to 10. This is the listening
event, so judges will be looking for proper
active listening technique. Judges are looking for
eye contact and nodding. You also have to give
someone undivided attention, meaning you’re actually
trying to understand what the person is saying. Asking questions and making
acknowledging statements also leads to a high score. Let’s take this to our woman on
the ground, Carissa Callahan. Carissa? Jon is engaging in conversation
with his friend Valentina. So Steph just left me. I didn’t have anyone
to see the movie with, and she didn’t even say sorry. Like, we’ve been friends since
she moved in across the street. She did that? Yeah, it’s, like,
really messed up. Love that question asking. He would have gotten
a higher score for restating what Valentina’s
original concern was and asking a
clarifying question, but overall it
shows he’s engaged. I have, like, three
hours of homework. Oh no. It looks like a really, really
cool caterpillar is climbing pretty close to Jon’s sandwich. Look at those colors. This is a very cool caterpillar. Let’s see what happens. [INAUDIBLE] acting
like we don’t even watch music videos together. Ooo, hey cool. Look at this caterpillar. Hey, look at what? [GASP] He wants to talk about
that very cool caterpillar because he’s no longer
interested in the conversation, but also wants to be a
good friend to Valentina. Hey, you know,
that really sucks. Have you tried telling her how
you feel and that you’re upset? I haven’t. It’s pretty cool of you
to hear me out like this. Let’s get to Mr. Roberts. And he recovers Jon clearly did
the right thing by not getting distracted, even if
he was getting bored, then he nailed it with a
great introspective question. Judges give it an 8.2. He was docked a few
points for looking away, and we could have seen Jon
stating the concern back to her. Back to you, Melissa Marissa. Wow, that really was
a great caterpillar. [COUGHING] Next up, we’re looking for
effective communication style. Like how someone
sounds when they talk? Definitely not, Walker. Judges are looking for
assertive communication, which means being direct
and honest about what you want without
using any put downs or making someone feel bad. That’s what I meant. Ahem. Today we’re looking
at Natasha Stevens. Let’s jump right
in as we see her being pushed to take money
from her parent’s money jar in the kitchen. Dude, the money’s
right in the kitchen. Take $10 so we can go get
gulpies a Fastee Mart. I don’t really want a gulpie. Yeah right. Uh-oh. We know Natasha. She’s not being direct enough. She doesn’t want to
steal from her parents. She does really want a gulpie. If we were at my
house I’d do it. OK. You know, maybe
they won’t notice. This is classic
passive communication. Scores very poorly with judges. Wait, wait, it looks like
Natasha might turn this around, because she’s literally
turning around. Dude, you know what? It’s not right to
steal from my parents. It’s not worth
losing their trust. I don’t know if you
can come over if you’re going to act like this. And by the way, I
always want a gulpie. OK, I hear you. I haven’t seen a comeback
like that since Skip Levinson in the ’68 games. Perfect example of
assertive communication. Judges give it an 8.9. She started out passively,
she gave in and said yes, even if she didn’t want to. Maybe she can try
yelling at him next time to make him feel
bad for stealing. That’s what we call
aggressive communication, and it too scores
poorly with judges. When you’re responding
out of rage or fear, you can hurt someone’s feelings
and even violate their rights. When she turned around,
it was classic assertive communication. She was direct
about how she felt, even if it was hard to say. That’s all the
time we have today. I’m Marissa Melissa. And I’m assertively
communicating that we’re out of time. Nice try, Walter. OK, signing off. [MUSIC PLAYING]

20 thoughts on “Active Listening: How To Communicate Effectively

  1. hey can yall do a video on suicide and suicidal thoughts? because i always have them and your videos always seem to help me out. anyway, love your channel!

  2. I am literally 26 and am now just watching these videos because no one ever taught me how to communicate effectively. i think i will start a school when i grown up

  3. This video really helped me. I’m a good listener, but I communicating assertively. I feel like this makes it easier to “use” me because I’ll help others but others won’t help/listen me

  4. I'm always an excellent active listener, but I'm a terrible talker, especially about conveying my opinions and storytelling. Do you guys have any tips to get better at it?

  5. I don’t do this with my friends XD we always interrupt each other of if something sounds stupid, we say shutthefuckup😂😂(for stupid conversations)

  6. That’s great! What is the name of the software that you use to produce this wonderful content? I am planning to create some contents for my students

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