17 Signs That You’re Lonely


Brainy Dose Presents: 17 Signs That You’re Lonely Loneliness is on the rise, and with more people
reporting feeling socially isolated or anxious, it’s turning into a widespread issue. It’s important to mention that there’s
a big difference between being alone and being lonely – they are not the same thing. Introverts, for example, value alone time
– seeing it as central to recharging mentally and emotionally. Chronic loneliness, on the other hand, leads
to feelings of isolation – of having no one there to talk to, turn to, or be with when
you want to. So, are YOU lonely? And how can you tell? If you have the following signs, loneliness
could very well be the culprit. Number 1 – You’re Constantly Tired It turns out that sleep and loneliness are
closely linked. One study revealed that feelings of loneliness
and isolation led to higher instances of disrupted sleep, as well as exhaustion during the day. As of now, it’s not clear why this is. One reason may be that loneliness contributes
to other issues like depression, which impacts sleep. Or, it could be that a lack of genuine social
interactions affects how the brain operates. Number 2 – You Take Long Hot Showers Ok, this may sound a bit odd, but let me explain. Current research shows that physical warmth
can generate feelings of social warmth. And much the same, physical coldness can create
feelings of coldness, and vice versa. People often self-regulate feelings of social
warmth by using physical warmth, whether or not they realize it. And so, if you ‘re obsessed with long, hot
showers, or stay in a warm bath until you look like a prune, you could be unknowingly
leaning on physical warmth to counteract the effect of social coldness. Number 3 – You Feel Down In The Dumps While those with depression often isolate
themselves, low mood and sadness are also closely connected to loneliness. Social support makes us feel like we are valued,
that others care about us. But if you cut yourself off from people, you
can lose sight of this, damaging your self-esteem – as you doubt people’s opinions of you. If you’re isolated from others, you can
drop into a cycle of negative thoughts – feeling less and less engaged with the world. Number 4 – You’re Always In Pajamas Have you ever made it to the end of the day
and realized that you don’t need to get changed because you’re still in pajamas? Well, if this happens a lot, it could have
more to do with loneliness rather than laziness. When someone is dealing with chronic loneliness,
their motivation is negatively affected; This includes simple things like looking after
themselves or their appearance. Not caring about things like ‘appearance’
reflects how isolated a lonely person can feel; if you feel disconnected from others,
you are less likely to put in the effort. Number 5 – You Feel Anxious In Social Situations Loneliness enforces cyclical feelings of isolation,
which is what makes it so damaging to your mental health. When we feel alone and cut off, we’re less
likely to feel the drive to go out and actively socialize. As a direct result of this, social anxiety
begins to build up when we think about social events in the future. Socializing is a skill – like driving. If you drive every day, your skills stay sharp,
and you feel confident in your ability. But if you fall out of practice and suddenly
need to rely on these skills again, you may find yourself consumed by panic and doubt
in your abilities. Number 6 – You Are Hooked On Social Media These days it’s hard to find someone who
is NOT on social media – as it’s so ingrained in our lives. But if your phone is glued to your hand all
the time, this could be a warning sign. Social media addiction and loneliness seem
to be tied together. Social media is a virtual source of recognition
and validation, causing lonely people to gravitate toward it. According to studies, people who spend two
hours or more a day on social media are twice as likely to feel lonely, compared to those
who spend thirty minutes or less. Number 7 – You’re An Excessive Shopper For many, shopping can be a great way to de-stress
and relax. Yet, overdoing it could point toward a deeper
issue. Buying something new often gives you a rush
– which, of course, is not a bad thing. But some people use this rush to try and fill
the empty feeling that loneliness brings. Research reveals that lonely people tend to
amass material goods to try and ‘make up’ for the necessary social interaction and experiences
that are missing in their lives. Number 8 – You’re Eating A Lot Of Junk Food Loneliness and craving junk food often go
hand in hand. Socializing boosts oxytocin and dopamine – which
cause a positive emotional response, so when we’re lonely, we miss these ‘Happy Hormones.’ Junk food gives an artificial pathway to some
of these hormones, but in the long run, this isn’t sustainable – and it only leads to
health problems caused by poor eating habits. Number 9 – You Gained Weight Turning to food to make up for our moods means
that loneliness tends to correspond with weight gain. Loneliness can also rob us of our motivation
– turning an active person to a couch potato – in no time. The lack of motivation also means that loneliness
could become a contributing factor in future health troubles, like high cholesterol or
high blood pressure. Number 10 – You’re Aging Prematurely Loneliness is a potent stressor, impacting
the natural flow of various cellular processes that occur in the body – making you disposed
to premature aging. Loneliness doesn’t just cause you to turn
to comfort food; it can also push you to overdo it when it comes to alcohol or other substances,
leading to dehydration – another factor that impacts cell function. As a result, fine lines and wrinkles appear
prematurely, making signs of aging more noticeable. Number 11 – You Experience Physical Pain With
No Logical Explanation Have you ever experienced physical discomfort
that occurred alongside feelings of loneliness? Well, it’s not in your head. Emotional pain can crossover into real, physical
pain. New evidence is coming to light that speaks
of how going through emotional distress and times of social isolation rely on some of
the same neurobiological substrates that underlie experiences of physical pain. Lonely people’s brains register feelings
of ‘threat and pain signals’ that are similar to real physical pain and danger. Number 12 – You Have Frequent Headaches While headaches are not all that uncommon,
they CAN be another side-effect of loneliness. Loneliness causes feelings of depression,
and this poor emotional state leads to two-thirds of lonely people experiencing headaches. When dealing with depression, your threshold
for pain drops; and the negative emotions brought on by loneliness means that migraines
and headaches can become more exacerbated. Number 13 – You Always Seem To Be Sick Your physiology can be negatively impacted
by loneliness, in shocking ways – the most surprising being how it weakens your immune
system – making your ‘immune response’ focus on bacteria instead of viruses. The result is a higher risk of getting viral
sicknesses, an example being the common cold. However, scientists don’t have a specific
answer as to why this happens. Talk about adding insult to injury! Number 14 – You Are Canceling Plans Those who are socially isolated have a much
lower likelihood of sticking to plans or appointments. The more time you spend alone, the harder
it is to find the drive to push yourself out of the same routine. When the only person you spend time with is
yourself, it gets harder and harder to push for change, even becoming a self-fulfilling
prophecy. If you expect to stay at home all day, you
probably will, and this enforces a negative pattern. Number 15 – You Are Overworking Burnouts at work could be pointing to deeper
feelings of loneliness. Whether you overwork can depend on the current
situation at the workplace, and the decisions you make while working. However, many people push themselves to keep
working, even when it’s clear that they need to rest and manage their workload. Why do you need to work so much? The truth is, you don’t; work is likely
a distraction to keep the underlying feelings of loneliness and isolation from really taking
hold. If you are sacrificing your health just so
you can put more time or effort in at work, you need to take a step back and look at why
that is. Number 16 – Your Memory Is Fading Away Loneliness not only negatively impacts your
emotions but your memory too. For some, loneliness arises from depression
– with research showing that being confused and having a weak memory both link to depression. If loneliness impedes memory, it can undermine
your overall focus. Your decision-making skills and your ability
to think clearly can also suffer as a result of this. If you’re all by yourself, your interactions
are limited – you don’t meet new people, and therefore do not need to remember names,
birthdays, or other personal details. The less social interactions you have, the
less you talk. As a result of this, your brain’s receptors
aren’t sending or receiving signals, which impairs your memory skills as time goes on
– raising the risk of dementia. Number 17 – You Hang Out With Other Lonely
People Loneliness can spread through a ‘contagious
process’ just like a cold. Even if you don’t directly feel lonely,
your social network could change that. Although it seems hard to believe, if the
people around you feel lonely, you could ‘catch’ these feelings of loneliness as well. Research suggests that if someone you have
a connection with is feeling lonely, you are 52% more likely to experience loneliness yourself. Loneliness can happen for a multitude of reasons
– maybe it’s because you lost your job, a relationship ended, or you feel like you’ve
hit a plateau in life. Remember, you CAN fight back against loneliness,
but first, you need to address it and keep your eyes open for the warning signs. Staying positive, assessing your emotions,
and not getting overwhelmed by ‘negatively inclined thinking patterns’ will help you
stand firm against loneliness. And if you find that feelings of loneliness
are enduring day after day, don’t be afraid to lean on others for support, or to seek
professional help. Now that you’re aware of some of the warning
signs of loneliness, is it possible that maybe you’re lonely? If so, check out a video we made about the
10 types of loneliness and how to deal with them – the link is in the description box. And as always, let us know your thoughts in
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69 thoughts on “17 Signs That You’re Lonely

  1. This channel is so educating. I love Brainy dose❤. I have been so inspired I'm launching a channel about more insight on relationships, love and girl talk. Thanks Brainy Dose for the inspo. 😎

  2. Come on we don't need signs to know if we are lonely or not.
    We know when we are lonely. Lol But we appreciate your concern.

  3. I do not like any of the existing people, if I could myself construct a woman from spare parts both physically and mentally, I would like her

  4. Loneliness happens when we stop believing that socializing will help us to achieve our goals. Humans are social animals; no matter what we think, we need others. So loneliness can affect us negatively and we need to avoid it at all costs.

  5. I love to be alone and to think how to solve my problems i was lonley when i was marrid to a narc but now so happy always new the differens love from greece

  6. But always remember this, if you are lonely you are never alone…obviously our goal is to find others to spend this time with in the end in my opinion. I see the time being alone as your prep work for the years you are with somebody (romantically and socially speaking). This channel just spurs great content for us to engage in, have a great day all!

  7. I don't have friends and boyfriend is that makes me lonely? Cuz I don't think am lonely everybody think that am selfish, push over but am nice so I decide to be alone wolf.

  8. Wow !!!! .. 950k subs .. soon be at the million mark BD …. come along way over the years and just shows how informative your vids are .. congrats to all and well deserved 🇬🇧👍

  9. Sargeant Peppers band? lol. Go to Wawa's and sit down with the best cup of coffee and get out of your perspective. Turn off Fb, Twitter, etc. Ask GOD? or Ask Google? Ask the Holy Spirit or ask Siri.

  10. Sometimes I get a little lonely but not to the point where I'm willing to get with just anybody. Guess I'll be single till I meet the right one.

  11. I am alone, most of the time, but not lonely. The key is being comfortable with your own thoughts. Meditation has helped tremendously. I did not previously realize how other people were sucking my energy. As an empath, there are special challenges. Working on self but definitely not lonely.

  12. Iv had boyfriend's since I was twenty now 50 and married to a wonderful man but don't give up people everybody needs someone to love♥️🙏😊

  13. I'm not ;lonely (despite the fact that I have a lot of these signs) but I'm a diehard Lonewolf so I prefer the lone life because there is no conflicts. I think you are only lonely if you feel lonely. And I don't. I have a cat and that is all the company I need

  14. I know I'm not lonely. I can stay off SM basically for 2 days, especially FB. I mean FB is like ppl diary. I don't eat alot..!! But I really do enjoy my Me time.

  15. Yes I have a lot of these symptoms. I have felt very lonely from being young and it hasn’t really got better .

  16. some of us are depressed & lonely due to being far too physically unattractive to be able to experience intimate relationships so are destined to be single, alone & unwanted despite whatever else we may have going for us. there is only so much failure & rejection that one can take before they come to understand that we are simply not good enough due to factors entirely beyond our control.

  17. My loneliness is caused by my husband keeping me in the house for 6 years and never seeing another human being besides him 😢

  18. Hi people don't feel a lonely take it God and tell him how y'all feel if you believe in Jesus Christ he wins help y'all Jesus don't lie i believe in Jesus Christ im not feel a lonely cuz Jesus Christ is with me he takes care of me and my family please turn your feelings to Jesus Christ he love's y'all me to love y'all God the father be with y'all 📖😇🙏💝💝💝 David JL

  19. I don't get lonely because there's almost no one I can relate to. My IQ is in the top 2% and most people don't talk about anything interesting so I end up getting my mental stimulation from the works of others who have exceptional intelligence, talent etc. through media instead of person to person. There is another reason, there are so many petty back stabbing unreliable and generally creepish people I'd rather just not bother. It comes down to a poor selection of people and it's a choice of wanting just anyone to distract you or wanting quality interactions. You're better off alone if there's only shitty people around to choose from.

  20. Is not the fault of the internet is the fault of people using the internet too much their is a difference and plus mental illnesses are a real thing those are not a joke

  21. Recognizing loneliness is the beginning of solving it. My personal solution would be to create and engage in hobbies…you can start out by doing your hobbies alone…then slowly you will meet others with the same interests and slowly you will get away from loneliness.

  22. U all think loners are nuts well I think most social people are needy.And God forbid they u ever have to be alone.

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